“I think women are scared of feeling powerful and strong and brave sometimes. There’s nothing wrong with being afraid. It’s not the absence of fear, it’s overcoming it and sometimes you just have to blast through and have faith.” ~ Emma Watson
When I left Melbourne a few months ago I was in a place of negativity and uncertainty. I needed a breath of fresh air and I needed a reality check.
On the drive over Aimee was asking if I knew what I was doing taking a girls team. The last time I took one was not the most successful stint of coaching I had experienced. In fact it’s easily the worst.
I looked back on my coaching life and I realised that my coaching roots was in girls and honestly it felt right. The difference between now and then is simply that I had learnt more and developed a new set of values. I had come into my own and most importantly I now have a daughter.
When I got to Adelaide I was afraid of coaching the girls because I knew the responsibility which I was taking but not only that I was also agreeing to being a male influence in the lives of a group of girls. I didn’t take that lightly.
My first task was an Australia Day tournament and something happened over that weekend. I found myself falling in love with the game again. In Melbourne I had given into the pressure of the must win attitude and the high stress nature of the job but forgotten that I could get the job done with a smile and with my sense of humour in tact.
I met a group of girls who were willing to push that extra mile if I asked and who were so focused and so chilled at the same time that it brought me back to a place of peace in myself.
Since that weekend we have continued to garner success and continue to grow as a group but more than anything push further than we ever thought possible.
I’ve spoken of womanhood and the failures of manhood. We’ve spoken of the ways in which female sports unfortunately have a glass ceiling and the need for women to smash through it time and time again. I’ve spoken of the need for positivity and a positive self image.
We have learned so much about each other and started to develop bonds of trust and now that feeling of family is there.
I’ve taken the a couple of girls under my wing and the response had been visable and fun. The truth is that coaching life for me has been very much reawakened and reinvigorated.
Tonight I found myself giddy about coaching for the first time in far too long. I found my love and I found my way again. Tonight I finally recognised something, I’m getting better, I’m feeling better. I am finally home and it’s all because I took the challenge of coaching a girls team.
I have been given the blessing of coaching an awesome group of young ladies who are so strong and so talented and have reminded me of who I was taught to be and who I really want to be. I wanna be a good influence on these girls and I wanna be a good role model, coach and most importantly a good man.